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- In the summer, there is only talk about vacation: who is going where, prices for tickets. Those who have already rested discuss whether they were lucky with the weather, how they got tanned and a lot of all sorts of wonderful rubbish, which so warms the hearts of both post-vacationers. But there is a category of people about whom it is scary to think about without a nagging pain in the soul. They will not go on vacation at "normal" times
- In the networks of addiction
- Tied to work
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In the summer, there is only talk about vacation: who is going where, prices for tickets. Those who have already rested discuss whether they were lucky with the weather, how they got tanned and a lot of all sorts of wonderful rubbish, which so warms the hearts of both post-vacationers. But there is a category of people about whom it is scary to think about without a nagging pain in the soul. They will not go on vacation at "normal" times
In the networks of addiction
There are people who do not understand why rest is needed at all, do not feel the need for a break, and every day spent outside of work is considered "lost." If you recognize yourself in this portrait, you are a workaholic. Previously, this word had a positive connotation and was extremely respectful to this category. It was believed that if a person works "to the maximum", then he will achieve the same amount.
While the workaholic is in the active phase, he avoids vacation like devil incense. And if for some reason he is "sent", he feels unhappy and takes time with anxious reflections. And all because workaholism (like any addiction) is based on strong internal anxiety. Only persistent service to the cause helps to structure it and thus reduce it. "Flight to work" is a reliable and socially acceptable form of addictive behavior that allows you to escape from personal and family problems.
And now you hear: "And I have no vacation this year." And you answer so empathically: "Oh, what a pity!" If at the same time you catch a perplexed look and hear the answer: "Not to rest, you have to work!" - know: before you a workaholic. And he knows how to look so that you feel guilty about the fact that you like to relax.
One of the undoubted and pure joys is rest after work
You need to be more careful with workaholism, because it affects not only its owner, but also the environment. Family and loved ones suffer because of his inability to take into account someone's interests, especially those related to leisure. For him, everything that is not work is idleness and laziness. Even physically present at home, he is always thinking about work, and if you try to distract him, he gets very irritated. The workaholic subordinate is just a holiday, he resembles a long-term battery. But you cannot wish the enemy a boss-workaholic: he is not able to take into account either the pace of his employees, or their capabilities and readiness (more precisely, the impossibility and unwillingness) to “work to the utmost.
The enthusiast himself may not realize for a long time that his body is working at the limit of its capabilities, but the moment of reckoning comes sometime. A body that has not been listened to for so long says, "Enough!" - and includes some kind of disease. Sometimes incompatible (temporarily or permanently) with work, which leads to a feeling of complete collapse. Even if this does not happen, workaholism can lead to the effect of "professional burnout" - a person is not able to do work for psychological reasons associated with extreme exhaustion. And since by this time the family had most likely already broken up, and friends were lost along the way, there is no one to support the former enthusiast.
You need to understand that workaholism is a disease where work acts as a "drug". A person's life is becoming more impoverished, narrowing. This poses a threat to mental well-being in the event of problems with work. Here are some points that a workaholic should learn:
- 1. Work only at work, and in your free time try not to think about unfinished projects.
- 2. To begin with, take at least a few days to try to fill them with something pleasant for yourself.
- 3. Remember a previous hobby or come up with a new one and do it for at least half an hour every day.
- 4. Pay attention to others: let them finally "reach out" to you.
- 5. Get the advice of a psychologist or psychotherapist in order to work out those problems that provoke "suction" into work.
The ability to switch from work to rest and vice versa is a very important skill that helps to economically and efficiently spend physical and mental energy. At the end of the working day, you need to "disconnect". To do this, master the method of ritualization. There is nothing difficult about this: just come up with your own ritual of saying goodbye to the workplace every day. For example, fold the papers so that tomorrow you will start working with those that require special urgency. Or lay out your office supplies. Think at the same time that the work for today is finished and you are starting to rest. Use the visualization technique: imagine that all work problems remain on your desk and all fatigue is invested in the movements of the hands involved in cleaning. The final touch - turn the key(in the office door or in a drawer) and the phrase said to himself: "For today the work is finished." If you repeat the ritual every day, after a few days you will realize that thoughts about work have ceased to haunt you, remaining "closed" in your workplace.
Tied to work
There is another category of people. They really want to go on vacation and with your "oh, what a pity!" will tell you in detail why you feel sorry for them not in vain. These people work in special places where summer is “the season”. Therefore, their vacation is usually in the "sunny" months - November and February. They are "attached", they are "not released", and this spoils their life. The same category includes people who could not go on vacation for financial reasons. Of course, each of them does the best they can with their own coping strategies. But the feeling of fatigue because “you work when others are resting” is very pressing.
If this is your case, then you will have to use the principle of "help yourself". And here are some guidelines:
1. Vacation must be
This is the first and foremost rule. Even if you have many responsibilities, both work and home, you should have some personal time to relax every day. It's good if this time is inviolable for the family. If your only rest is sleep, the body will sooner or later "take" what it needs (more often in the form of physical ailment). Therefore, if you are accustomed not to rest, but only to "switch" from one worries to others, it is time to work out this useful skill.
2. Attention to individual biorhythms
Not being able to go on vacation for two or three weeks, you need to organize your schedule so as to rest every day. What are the most active hours for you? And the recession with the desire to escape from everything? The time of "decline" will be the time of rest. And the fact that biorhythms coincide with allowing yourself to relax and enjoyable activities is especially valuable.
3. An interesting vacation
First of all, it should be interesting for you. You may be feeling a little unhappy about not being able to go on vacation in the summer. Don't waste a lot of time pleasing others. If you don't like a weekend hike, think about something that you would really enjoy. Spend your evenings and weekends the way you want.
4. Special moments
Even if you spent the warm season, not looking up from the open-hearth, try to feel what the rest brings with it. You know this is for you. For someone - ice cream on a warm evening, a night walk, a light dress and smart shoes … For each his own! Try to catch your "special" moments, this will also contribute to the relaxation of the soul.