All Tastes Of Being. How To Bring Back The Lost Taste Of Life - Self-development

The taste of life is an experience that we can receive in different ways. Unfortunately, it is not always pleasant. We feel alive not only when we feel good and comfortable, but also when we are scared, sad, bitter or painful. To live to the fullest is the act of a strong person, it is always a risk. It is much easier to live a functional life, where you can always delegate responsibility

Time to feel

We live in a very fast world and simply do not have time to enjoy the taste of life. A lot of energy is spent on pursuing a goal. Unfortunately, achieving what we wanted, we do not have time to linger, a new goal immediately appears before us. In the event of a stop, we begin to experience anxiety, it seems to us that at this moment someone is running more confidently and faster, something is passing by. Because of the fear of missing something, we lose the opportunity to enjoy the conquered peak.

We live too quickly and therefore we cease to notice ourselves in relationships, events, do not distinguish between details, our life becomes insipid. But on the other hand, people develop when they do not stand still, set tasks for themselves, and face difficulties. Even if we eat the most wonderful dish every day, after a very short time we will cease to feel pleasure, the dish will become familiar. To try it again, you have to give it up for a while.

Every second we find ourselves between two scales, one of which is safety, and the other is arousal

Pain in stress

Experiencing only pleasant emotions is our dream. But man is so constructed that along with pain he ceases to feel joy. If something is out of tolerance, we turn off the entire emotional sphere. Our psyche takes care of us, the fuse goes off, a difficult experience is encapsulated. This capsule affects all levels: bodily, mental, and emotional. We seem to take a piece of negative experience and reject it from ourselves. It would seem, what's wrong with that? If trouble has occurred, why not turn on the protection and suffer for minutes, weeks, or even years?

The problem is that after some time our split-off experience begins to live its own life, and unnoticed by us. We just dance a kind of dance around processes that are not very clear to us, we cannot designate - in this place I had a traumatic experience. An insensitive person cannot be happy, but he is not greatly affected by unpleasant experiences. Our choice is not easy: to live in the middle register without strong emotions or to pay with pain for the luxury of feeling.

Someone else's feelings

We learn to borrow impressions over time. You can often watch people come to a beautiful place, turn their backs on it and take selfies. Their experience does not occur at the moment, it is delayed. People are waiting for them to get to Wi-Fi, post their photos on the background of beauty, and after the first likes, they will finally understand that where they checked in, they felt good.

Receiving feedback from the world, a person tries to prove to himself that he is alive. If we do not develop the emotional sphere, it is very difficult for us to form an attitude towards something. The opinion is borrowed from other people. For example, going to a show because of good reviews. The skill is formed to form one's own impression from strangers, to appropriate and feel the taste of another's life.

"Seeing and feeling is to be, to think, to live."

William Shakespeare

Safety or adrenaline

Every second we find ourselves between two scales, one of which is safety, and the other is arousal. And we cannot live long at the highest point of any of these scales. Let's imagine that we have managed to build a world of absolute security. Every day there is like yesterday, there are comfortable conditions and you don't have to want something. There we communicate with understandable people, from whom we do not expect any surprises. These people constantly maintain the entourage of unchanging reality.

In such a world, everything is too predictable, there is nothing there that could somehow affect emotions. But even at the highest point of arousal, we also cannot enjoy all the time. If we are at the peak of experiences, after a while the body is depleted, the brain turns off. All our life we have been balancing between these two processes. Moreover, each person is initially assembled in such a way that he prefers one of the vectors more often than the other.

The loss of sensitivity begins with the fact that we increase the number of stereotyped actions. At such moments we are everywhere and nowhere at the same time

An important choice

A person can understand that he creates his own life, and he has the opportunity to choose what to invest in. It is very sad when you spend resources and time on the realization of someone else's dream: mother's, father's, society.

They write a lot now about the midlife crisis. When a certain stage has been passed, in which a lot of effort and energy has been invested, a person revises his achievements and … finds emptiness. And from the point of view of society and close people, he is doing well. This is a very interesting experience: sometimes a person really did not realize something of his own, and sometimes it is very difficult to admit that an independent unfortunate choice was made.

At such a moment of crisis, achievements are depreciated and apathy sets in. The only experience that can arise during this period is different shades of anger. Such depressive notes are associated with the fact that you don't need anything, you don't want to, you don't please. There are only two ways left: find dope or die slowly, automatically moving from day to day.

An insensitive person cannot be happy, but he is not greatly affected by unpleasant experiences

How to get the feeling back

Can we improve the taste of life? For a start, it would be good to learn to be more attentive to simple things. How do we eat? How do we leave the house, how do we get somewhere? The loss of sensitivity begins with the fact that we increase the number of stereotyped actions. Sitting with a tablet, eating, answering calls, giving valuable instructions to a child is quite simple. At such moments we are everywhere and nowhere at the same time.

The first thing you can do is arrange communicative fasting days. For example, on the way to the car, notice that summer has come, the flowers have blossomed. Ask yourself, "Do I remember what a fruit tree smells like?" Allow yourself, entering the store, not to choose a standard set, but to think about what you really want.

For the return of the taste of life, it is very important to experiment, to think about where we go, what we do, are there things that surprise us. We live as long as we retain the ability to wonder.

"Every experience has its own temporality."

Edmund Husserl