Chuchundra's First Step. What Is "impostor Syndrome" And How To Deal With It - Image

Chuchundra is by no means a positive character. Therefore, it is worth getting rid of this complex. Plus, the middle of the room isn't that awful. If you think about it, then there is more light, and space too. First, you should admit to yourself that you are afraid of your own victories and achievements. Most often, the cause of this complex is from early childhood. There is a so-called substitution effect. For example, all relatives literally prayed for one of the family members, and they were constantly put to you as an example. God forbid, if this someone left for various reasons or died altogether, you will be persistently offered to “take his place”, but not to be “yourself”, but just “to imitate another”. The second reason is the "family myth" about the "right way of life." From infancy, you can instill in a girl that she is complete perfection and nothing like that exists,whatever she couldn't handle. All the time to tell her how unique she was in early childhood: she learned to speak and read in infancy, knew poetry by heart, and so on. If suddenly she does not succeed in something, then she will be very surprised. Over time, the girl will realize that she cannot really do whatever she wants. But she will feel that she has to live up to the family's admiration, but because her parents praise her for everything indiscriminately, she will become distrustful of their praise. Then she will begin to doubt herself, gradually forming the belief that since it does not work out without effort, then, probably, she is not really any genius, which means she is an impostor who only pretends to be smart. Finally, the “impostor” complex is found among those who were often criticized by their parents in childhood, rarely praised, and made excessive demands on them. Over the years, children have grown into super-demanding adults, primarily towards themselves. And all it was worthwhile to understand that even science clearly defines - there is no right way of life and cannot be. An interesting story about this phenomenon is told by a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University, Irwin Yalom, with whom I managed to talk personally and discuss some aspects of the life of the "impostors." His opinion can be found in the book “Group psychotherapy. Theory and practice". “At the first meeting, the members of the group were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs. "And all it was worth understanding that even science clearly defines - there is no correct way of life and cannot be. An interesting story about this phenomenon is told by a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University, Irwin Yalom, with whom I managed to talk personally and discuss some aspects of the life of the "impostors." His opinion can be found in the book “Group psychotherapy. Theory and practice". “At the first meeting, the members of the group were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs. "And all it was worth understanding that even science clearly defines - there is no correct way of life and cannot be. An interesting story about this phenomenon is told by a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University, Irwin Yalom, with whom I managed to talk personally and discuss some aspects of the life of the "impostors." His opinion can be found in the book “Group psychotherapy. Theory and practice". “At the first meeting, the group members were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs. "An interesting story about this phenomenon is told by a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University, Irwin Yalom, with whom I managed to talk personally and discuss some aspects of the life of the "impostors." His opinion can be found in the book “Group psychotherapy. Theory and practice". “At the first meeting, the members of the group were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs. "An interesting story about this phenomenon is told by a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University, Irwin Yalom, with whom I managed to talk personally and discuss some aspects of the life of the "impostors." His opinion can be found in the book “Group psychotherapy. Theory and practice". “At the first meeting, the group members were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs. "“At the first meeting, the members of the group were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs. "“At the first meeting, the group members were asked to write on a piece of paper anonymously the very thing that they least want to talk about in public. It is striking that the answers were almost the same: a deep conviction that a person is inadequate, does not understand the main thing and that he does not live, but only skillfully bluffs."

THE KEY TO FREEDOM

Real impostors are a kind of calling. A person chooses a role for himself and a character that he wants to be - and he becomes. “You can pretend to be a master of any business and cope with it. It doesn't matter if you know how to hypnotize or not. Back home, just pretend to be a hypnotist, write yourself speeches and broadcast them everywhere. People will follow you and begin to pretend that they are immersed in a trip. And after some time they will get tired of doing it and they will forget that they are just being used to it. " For me, this thought of the American psychiatrist Milton Erickson became the key to freedom. Freedom from the eternal horror that now the deception will be revealed and everyone will turn away from me with the words “we thought you were like that, but you were like that …”. And I began to pretend. Journalist, writer, psychotherapist, consultant, group leader, business woman, healthy,beautiful and happy. I started to engage in new types of creative and sports activities. And every night I repeat to myself: “Applaud, you played your own role today like no one else. Brilliantly! Airy! Confidently! " Yes, I still prepare for each stage. But this is not only me, my professional hero shares with me the responsibility and joy of a job well done. The main thing is that people believe in it. And they read, admire, praise my style, recover from psychological trauma and conclude contracts with me. This means that I play well, study and can teach others. I prepare for each stage the same way. But this is not only me, my professional hero shares with me the responsibility and joy of a job well done. The main thing is that people believe in it. And they read, admire, praise my style, recover from psychological trauma and conclude contracts with me. This means that I play well, study and can teach others. I prepare for each stage the same way. But this is not only me, my professional hero shares with me the responsibility and joy of a job well done. The main thing is that people believe in it. And they read, admire, praise my style, recover from psychological trauma and conclude contracts with me. It means that I play not badly, study and can teach others.