"My Friend Is Dating A Convict!" Is The Psychology Of Prisoners Different? - Relations

My friend meets with a convict, he gives flowers and is ready to marry her, he brought her to live with him. He believes in God, there is an iconostasis at home, he goes to church. Tell me how dangerous this relationship is and what is the catch, is the psychology of prisoners different from ours? Help, I can’t allow my friend to get into trouble, but she doesn’t seem to hear anything

masha1976

I think you should not be interested in the psychology of prisoners, but in the psychology of your friend. You talk about the "psychology of prisoners" as if we are talking about some kind of zoopsychology of animal communities - for example, the psychology of wolves, dolphins, or, say, wild horses, birds. A person, even being convicted of any offense, is nevertheless a person with his own individual personality, character, peculiarities of emotional response and behavior, level of intellectual and spiritual and moral development. As you know, a major businessman, a political dissident journalist, a sadistic maniac, a petty thief, a doctor who made a mistake, and an ordinary car enthusiast who accidentally ran into a pedestrian can serve time in prison. And how are you going to unite all these people with the concept of "prison psychology" ?!Well, we would also be talking about narrower groups of criminals: then, perhaps, we could try to find something in common in the characters of pickpockets, swindlers, serial killers or rapists. But just to take and, as they say, "row with the same brush" all who went through the system of criminal punishment ?! This seems absurd to me.

It is better to ask about the psychology, the personality of a particular person - the new companion of your girlfriend. Find out who he is by profession, what education he has, what he was doing before he was convicted, in the end, ask what he was convicted for. Is it really not important for you whether he committed a premeditated murder, a petty burglary, or is it a teacher, a doctor, convicted for the gratitude received, which, under the circumstances, turned out to be a bribe?

Of course, I agree - the presence of the iconostasis and the habitual act of giving flowers cannot say anything about a particular person. Therefore, how “dangerous these relationships are”, I cannot say - maybe very dangerous, or maybe just wonderful.

There really can be a "catch" here, and you intuitively feel it. This "trick", rather, may be hiding in the psychology of your friend, who chose a person with a dubious past as her companion (if, of course, it is really dubious and immoral).

There are women with the well - known "Mother Teresa" complex, who see themselves as the only saviors of men who allegedly "lost their way", "deprived of care and understanding" of men, in fact - infantile psychopaths. Such relationships quickly take on the character of sadomasochistic: the female “caress and care” of the psychopath does not soften at all, but only even more inclines to moral and sometimes physical violence, and the “savior”, instead of the expected triumph of mother Teresa, turns out to be a typical servile victim of her tyrant …