Sensitive Needs Help! How To Survive A Sensitive Person - Self-development

Is it difficult for you to hold back tears of joy, even if the heroine of a feature film is lucky? Do you want peace in the world and strive to help every old woman you meet? Will all stray cats and dogs in your yard be fed while you eat, something to share with them? You belong to a sensitive psychotype! And sometimes you need help yourself.

Who is sensitive? This type is very close to psychasthenic, and most often modern psychologists consider it as a type of psychasthenic, but emotionality and impressionability come to the fore among sensitives. So, get acquainted: impressionable, attentive, sympathetic, good-natured, the first to run to the aid of all the humiliated, offended and simply tired, devoted and executive, inclined to a narrow circle of friends and creative hobbies. At the same time, they are sensitive - vulnerable, whiny, touchy, suspicious and cautious people. They are also distinguished by high moral requirements for themselves and others, but primarily for themselves.

Weaknesses of a sensitive person are very low self-esteem, shyness, problems with the opposite sex. He lacks toughness, perseverance and the ability to throw out his negativity. Often he carries a grudge in himself. There is a tendency to hypochondria. They attach great importance to relationships between people and the assessment of others. They do not make accusations and suspicions against themselves.

Cheat sheet for the sensitive

A healthy, adequate self-esteem is the foundation of a happy life. If self-esteem is a problem, it becomes much more difficult to achieve anything. Study, work, relationships with friends and starting a family are all connected in one way or another with how you think of yourself. You just need to grow in your eyes. To do this, like your psychasthenic friends, it will be useful for you to make a list of all your achievements from birth to the present day. You will see, perhaps even be surprised, but you have done a lot in your life. And not everyone managed to cope with such tasks well. How many good deeds have you managed to accomplish? Review and add to this list periodically

Of course, one cannot get away with just a list. There are many ways to believe in yourself. The most versatile are sports, setting achievable goals, the right choice of profession. Resources for a more fulfilling life surround us on all sides. You just have to take advantage of them, and not pass by

Learn to say NO:

1. Let's look at your YES from an unusual point of view. Your consent to do what you do not want spoils life not only for you, but unties the hands of the person asking (manipulator). And he, in turn, begins to expect the same reliability from others. How much harm do we do without defending our interests? Your “YES” is at the same time “NO” to your free time, your goals and plans, promises to your spouse or children. By doing work for others, you "take yourself away" from your loved ones.

2. If you cannot say “NO” here and now, postpone the answer until later. Sometimes this is enough for the petitioner to change his mind. And you are buying time for a worthy rebuff.

3. Manipulators put pressure on our senses. Before giving an answer, consider whether there is a connection between what you are feeling and what is being asked of you.

Art therapy releases your deepest feelings, eliminating the need to look vulnerable or "bad" in the eyes of others. Even if you are overwhelmed with joy that you have no one to share with, you can splash it out on paper. Take pencils, paints, markers, scissors, glue. Draw, color, make collages. Your innate artistic tendencies can manifest themselves, and therapy will turn into real art

Self-criticism is inherent in this psychotype. "Well, how could I?" - you repeat to yourself at night, remembering the mistakes and missed opportunities. And this “nice” watch is of no use. Life consists of lessons and trials that we go through with varying degrees of success. If it did not work out this time, we must try to make it different in the next similar situation. All. And don't punish yourself. If thoughts are swarming, stand up and write them down - it's much more productive. Answer the questions: "What exactly did I do wrong?" and "What can I do to avoid repeating my mistake in the future?" Instead of digging into the past, try to focus your attention on the present and future. At the very least, this will help you avoid making new mistakes. Once you have forgiven yourself, start forgiving your offenders. Everyone is wrong

Sensitives tend to be confused in difficult situations. To solve problems and make better decisions more effectively, create instructions with detailed workflows for different cases. It can be a reminder of a fire, an earthquake, first aid, or even an unexpected arrival of guests. Deep breathing and counting help you avoid panic at the beginning. Humor will help to overcome numbness and confusion. Say to yourself “Hello, panic. Long time no see? How did you get there? " Stop, look around. What's happening? If there is no ready-made instruction, try to make a plan: calm down, concentrate, analyze the situation, take something adequate to this situation and call on the help of others

The feeling of the fullness of life is impossible without a favorite thing. Sensitives become good psychologists, educators, social workers, creative professions and charity work are suitable for them

Sensitives! Chin up! You can do much more than you always thought. Don't fight yourself. Don't try to stifle the feelings that flutter inside. Become the master of this thrill and it will work for you

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