"I Have A Jealous Husband!" You Don't Actually Have A Husband, You Have An Owner - Relations

“I have a pathologically jealous husband, he is constantly watching me, checking my phone, there is some kind of device in the car that tracks my location. It's so hard to explain and justify everything all the time. How to be? "

Tatiana, 37 years old

Sometimes "pathological jealousy" actually turns out to be a delusion of jealousy, in other words, clinically manifested paranoia. But this is observed relatively infrequently. Therefore, let us take the more widespread variant, which assumes that you actually do not have a husband, but that you have an owner, and you are not “married”, you are subordinate, you are not free, you are enslaved. This is how they deal with property items: they install alarms on them, fence them off, conduct video surveillance, protecting them from encroachments by other persons. And many women like it: they like how they decorate their "facade" with jewelry, how they show off to friends and competitors, even like how they protect against "theft" (they are jealous). Even more surprising, such women - "objects of property" - accustom themselves to prepare themselves for the fact that when "obsolete" they will be "replaced with new ones"and therefore try in every possible way to extend their "shelf life".

They know that the further they go, the more they will “fall in price”, and soon they will have to “sell” to a new owner, less demanding of “novelty and quality of the product”. So many people live like that. Decide for yourself - you are one of them or you are still a woman - one of those who throughout the history of mankind inspired the great achievements of warriors, poets and scientists, who, getting married, gained understanding, care and support, and not suspicion, humiliation and persecution. Your problem is best described by the psychotherapist Mikhail Litvak: “Women, if a man is jealous of you, therefore, he considers you a whore. Think about whether you should live with him. But do not make excuses, because you are not guilty of anything. Only - why do you live with a jealous person?.. If your partner in love distracts you from business, reproaches, becomes jealous, in general, hinders your development, then,he doesn't love you. When dealing with a person, decide whether he is good or bad. If you decide that it is bad, then stop communicating with him. If you decide that you are good, then do not find fault with trifles."