How To Work From Home? Self-organization In Conditions Of Self-isolation - Image, Self-development

2023 Author: Oswald Adamson | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 20:18

Self-isolation has been introduced in many cities and countries. And those who can work remotely, at home. If initially people were happy that they did not have to go to work, leave the house early in the morning, now they are faced with a problem: how to organize their work outside the office? How to make yourself work at home instead of drinking tea, playing with a cat, watching funny videos?

Self-isolation and self-discipline

Office work sets external factors for discipline control, but sitting at home, you are forced to control yourself. Why do some people do it, others do not? And what to do in order to still successfully work from home?

For whom it is easy to work from home, for whom it is not

Responsible for internal discipline is our super-ego - a part of the psyche, which Freud called the “internal censor”. The superego is not an innate construct, it is formed after a year under the influence of external control, education. How the child was controlled, brought up, how he was organized - so he will be, this will be his inner discipline and adult behavior.

If the parents indulged, allowed to sleep longer, even if it was necessary to get up for school, then with a high degree of probability the child himself will grow up as an indulgent: he will attach excessive importance to his "hobbies" and relieve himself of responsibilities. “If you can't, but you really want to, then you can,” is the motto of this family. Of course, the lack of rigor and discipline in childhood, the hypocritical style of upbringing give rise to a problem with self-organization in the future. The child was simply not taught to be responsible and demanding of himself.

The other extreme is excessive severity, "repressive" parents. They control, demand a lot and punish for the slightest mistakes and disobedience. What's the bottom line? The child will repeat their script, becoming neurotically demanding of himself and others. He will be afraid to make even the slightest mistake, will try too hard or be afraid to try, so as not to make a mistake.

But a counter-scenario can also develop - protest behavior. Such a person will rebel against the rules and avoid responsibility: "They say, write along - write across." This rebellion can be overt and open, or it can be a hidden protest, expressed as a sabotage of the work process. Such is the belated revenge on strict parents.

Who are the lucky ones who manage to organize their work at home?

Perhaps these are children who were raised in a fairly optimal and healthy way: the parents, on the one hand, made demands, on the other, their demands were realistic.

Or people with a high level of responsibility striving for personal development. Those who took responsibility for their lives, regardless of the children's story. And they are ready to build themselves and their lives as they see fit. These are psychologically mature people, if they have questions with self-discipline, they can solve them.

What if you find it difficult to work from home?

1. Try to make a clear plan in advance: a to-do list, their order, the duration of breaks. This plan needs to be drawn up the day before, preferably in the evening, so that you know what time to get up and how to build your day. The plan should be realistic, clear, understandable, specific and thoughtful. Do not forget to leave time for rest in it! Rest is just as important as work.
2. In case of deviation from the original plan, you need to make adjustments and continue, but not quit. Quitting is the easiest, it is escapism, runaway behavior. Life is dynamic, the schedule can change, some things are done faster than planned, others are delayed. Review your plan, but do not cancel without an objective reason.
3. It is important to praise yourself for a successfully implemented plan, reward with small joys. Positivity helps reinforce certain behaviors. So feel free to reward yourself for a successful day. What will please you? Think about it. Someone wants to take a bath, someone wants to eat a treat or watch their favorite movie. It can be any joy, but it is better to diversify the repertoire, and not repeat, for example, do not pamper yourself with chocolate every time, but use other methods.
4. If you work remotely, you need to allocate a special place at home,which will become your "cabinet" for a while. Thus, you symbolically separate "personal" and "professional". Our instinct divides the surrounding space into a “native cave” in which one can and should relax, and into an “outside world” in which deeds and deeds await. In conditions of self-isolation, one has to "perform feats at home", the work and home space are merged, this confuses us: someone cannot relax, someone cannot activate. Therefore, as far as possible, it is better to separate home and personal space. Most likely, you do not live in a knight's castle with 100 rooms, but in an ordinary apartment or house. Find a corner, albeit a small one, which you temporarily appoint as your "office". It will become easier for you to go into the activation state when you get there.
5. When you need to get down to business, part with a comfortable dressing gown or pajamas, change clothes - formal dressing helps to change your sense of self and better organize yourself. Yes, your bosses, employees, clients do not know in what form you sit at the computer or do other things. You don't have to wash your face, not brush your hair, get overgrown with dust and mold, and no one will say a word. But you yourself know what is happening to you, how you look. “The costume makes a clown” - the clothes help to create the mood and self-awareness of “who am I now?”. Separate your leisure and work-at-home clothing in your wardrobe.
6. "It's more fun together." Find a company: who else of your friends is sitting at home now and having difficulties with self-organization? Unite: tell each other about your achievements, successes. You can play a competition: which one of you will be more productive? Perhaps it will be one friend or girlfriend, maybe you organize a whole "team". Mutual support and an element of competition are a great combination to motivate you to be productive.
7. Try to understand: what makes you sabotage things? Perhaps there is some protesting part inside with which you can agree? In R. Assagioli's psychosynthesis, there is an idea of "subpersonalities" - internal autonomous structures that seem to live their own lives and have their own interests. And, proceeding from them, they influence us. As the King said in the film-fairy tale "An Ordinary Miracle": "From time to time a poisoning grandmother or an uncle-strangler wakes up in me …" And who wakes up in you? Try to find this subpersonality and talk to it. What character inside you makes you sabotage things? How can you come to an agreement with him? Try it, it is interesting and effective!

At the end of the article, I would like to wish you health and productivity!