At The Mercy Of Fear. How To Stop Being Afraid Of The Alarm Clock, Monday, The Boss - Image, Self-development

From call to call, "from 9 to 18", we work five days a week. Over time, even seemingly good work can start to cause tremors and rejection. What to do if the alarm clock is your enemy, on Mondays you want to "pick up and cancel", and the word "boss" causes wild fear?

1. Starting from "zero"

In fact, you should admit to yourself that you are not afraid of a specific day of the week or the sound of an alarm clock, but of the current job itself. This can happen in two situations: either you are a beginner and just got a job in an organization, or you are already tired of the monotony of activities and / or you do not have the best relations with the team.

Let's deal with the first option - you recently started working and you have a strong fear of the company's management and colleagues, you are afraid that you will not like it, you will not cope with it, you will not get accustomed (emphasize the necessary). Studies show that it is the first few months of work that are filled with stress and anxiety.

The new team is not always friendly, the manager can be really very strict and even yell at the employees for the slightest offense or mistake, and the job itself contains many "pitfalls" that you had no idea about when you got a job. And now the former euphoria is gone, and every day you go to the office as if it were hard labor.

What to do?

Oddly enough, you should wait and calm down. A person gets used to a lot, and what was shocking at first, may eventually appear on the other side.

Be open to colleagues, do not be afraid to joke - this way you will get approval and stop being a stranger in the team. Ask questions not only in your direction, but get acquainted with the global, strategic plan of the company, its history and achievements. This will help show others that you are serious and interested in working here. And you will see the changes.

If you are worried that your competencies are not enough, it is worth studying the work experience of your predecessor by talking with employees. Identify those sides of the question in which you have gaps and try to fill them. You can directly ask the management to send you to promotion courses or trainings. If this option is not suitable, you can do it yourself by completing online training or choosing the right literature. The main thing is to understand the cause of your fear and find a way to deal with it.

2. In the "swamp" of routine

Newbies aren't the only ones who can hate their jobs and be afraid to go to the office. This problem often arises among those who have given more than one year to work in the organization and are often its "old-timer".

Here the reason lies in banal boredom - if every working day becomes "Groundhog Day", then the desire to come to the office becomes less and less. Monotony, lack of challenging tasks and lack of career advancement are at the root of this problem. Dissatisfaction also creates a decrease in motivation in us. And now the boss frowns at the sight of you, and at the meeting he can devote more than a dozen minutes to analyzing your personality.

What to do?

First, try to speak frankly with management - if you have been working for a long time and you are appreciated, then this can help. Ask to transfer you to another front of activity, to include in a new project - to set the bar higher, to give you an incentive. In case of refusal and misunderstanding, you should admit to yourself that you have done everything you could in this field, and with a clear conscience, start looking for a new job that will "ignite" you again.

3. "Washbasin chief and washcloth commander"

We all remember the formidable Moidodyr from a children's fairy tale, who instilled fear not only in his subordinates, but also in children … it's funny to say, but it is not uncommon for the boss at work to be feared no less than this character. And, having met him in the corridor, they literally freeze with horror, even if the leader is, in principle, an adequate and calm person.

Alas, not all leaders apply the democratic method of management in practice. Many, especially in manufacturing companies, implement a tough, authoritarian style, when they can shout at their subordinates, endure a reprimand for no particular reason, and threaten to dismiss … Moreover, they are not necessarily tyrants, they just think that this is the only way the company will be in order and result. It is worth fleeing immediately and irrevocably from such "arbiters of destinies" of subordinates, because you will only waste your nerves in vain.

What to do?

First, see if your boss is so hard on everyone? If so, then this is just such a management style. A good treatment for your phobia will be an argument with your boss about some topic that is not very important to him. This will give you the opportunity to show yourself and earn his respect. If you manage to convince the boss of your position, you will feel your strength, and the fear will recede.

If the boss only criticizes you, there are two options - either you are a really unimportant employee, or you are disliked and made a "scapegoat." In the first case, it is worth starting to work better, trying, showing interest, and not just sitting "from ring to ring." Your zeal will be appreciated. In the second, it is worth again talking to the boss frankly and understanding the reason for his attitude. If there are no objective reasons, and it's just a matter of personal dislike, look for a new job.

There is also another universal method that allows you to deal with fear in all of the above situations. This is, oddly enough, a feeling of gratitude.

The human psyche is so arranged that we get hung up on the negative moments of life - it is negative emotions, alas, the brightest. But it is quite possible to approach this consciously and add bright moments. To do this, write three positive things that your work gave you

Did you get a great experience working here? Or does the level of reward allow you to fulfill your needs and desires? It can be anything you want - a convenient location, flexible hours … The main thing is to find something good and be grateful for it.

The same will work for beginners - you can be glad that you are in demand and do not sit without work, for example.

Even in a difficult boss situation, there is room for gratitude. Surely, you learned something from your leader, and there is something for which you respect him. Tell him about it, even if you decide to quit. Believe me, bosses are people too, and they rarely hear sincere words of gratitude.