Beauty 2019: Why We Reject Our Body - Self-development

Rejection of one's own body is a big problem for many, widespread in modern society. And rooted in the distant past, when corporeality was perceived as sinfulness, and the body as a repository of sins and vices

Of course, in the twentieth century, history developed in unprecedented leaps, and corporeality and sexuality quickly won their rightful places in culture. The current state of affairs is such that corporeality and sexuality do not leave the screens, from the headlines of newspapers and magazines. At the same time, they penetrate even where they are, in principle, not needed: in theatrical performances of classical works, in the adaptation of well-known novels and stories.

What does this mean? About the fact that Western culture got rid of all its past complexes, from the denial of sexuality and corporeality, or about the fact that not everything is in order with this area and such demonstrativeness is a manifestation of overcompensation?

Rejecting your own body

We see close attention to physicality. And it is associated in Western culture with such a phenomenon as rejection.

You don't have to go far for proof. Take, for example, one of the phenomena of our time - the desire to lose weight. It becomes just a disease that spreads across entire countries. Yes, of course, due to the inactivity of our life and improper diet, many are overweight. Yes, of course, this is unhealthy and must be disposed of. We do not argue. We are talking about something else - about the attitude to their own weight.

Many, especially teenage girls, are obsessed with their weight. He becomes for them a symbol of all failures and problems, difficulties in relations with people

And active weight loss begins, carried out in most cases without the supervision of a doctor and boiling down to starvation, which causes harm to a growing body no less than overweight itself. The result is health problems, bulimia, or anorexia.

Not to mention the fact that many people with normal weight themselves do not consider their weight as such and also go on a diet - and usually completely anti-scientific, anti-medical, harmful to the body.

What is the reason for dissatisfaction with yourself?

If a person does not suit himself, he will not suit himself further, no matter how he changes. You can dye your hair, wear colored lenses, lose weight, gain weight, build muscle, change your hairstyle every day. But you will not be satisfied with yourself and your body. If you dye your hair in the "ideal" color, in your opinion, you will understand that you do not like you because you are too fat. Lose weight - again you will not like it, because your eyes are too small. And they are not that color. And the nose spoils everything. And the ears get in the way. After all, the reason for the dissatisfaction lies in something else - in the initial dislike for your body!

We are all socially dependent. And if society through the media, the Internet daily implants a certain canon of beauty, you begin to compare yourself with it. And since all people are individual and cannot fit one type, discrepancies, complexes, dissatisfaction with oneself begin

Dissatisfaction with your body and, as a result, its rejection is a characteristic feature of our time, our culture. Many people go through life, day after day, rejecting their bodies. And if a person does not love his own body, he cannot live fully, enjoy the very process of life. He will always be dissatisfied with himself and will transfer this dissatisfaction to others, become irritable and aggressive.

This dissatisfaction is largely due to the discrepancy between the real I ("what I really am") and the implanted image of the ideal I ("what I would like to be"). And with a lack of self-love and self-contact. After all, if a person realizes his individuality and value, he will be more satisfied with the I-real and the desire for the I-ideal will not take on painful features. This means that the rejection of one's own body can be largely associated with ignorance of one's body, with a distorted idea of it.

This is where body-oriented psychotherapy and other body-based practices can help - better understanding, accepting and hearing your body. Then the quality of life, relationships with oneself and with other people change.

Body psychotherapy practices will help

On October 10-13, 2019, in the city of Batumi (Georgia), an international festival of bodily psychotherapy practices will take place. About 30 presenters from 10 different countries will take part in it. The languages of the festival will be English, Georgian and Russian. Anyone can take part in it, not only professionals.

The experience of going through bodily psychotherapy practices helps to better feel your body, understand and accept it

Details on the festival website