6 Male Misses In Bed - Relationship, Sex

Sex education in our country is still confused with debauchery, and children often receive information "about this" not from their parents, but from school folklore. Many men consider themselves aces in bedding - but their ideas about sex often have nothing to do with reality

What stereotypes prevent men from being truly good lovers? Let's try to analyze the most common of them.

1. Perception of pornography as a teaching aid

The prevalence and availability of pornographic video and print products has led many adolescents and young people to consider the scenario of sexual relations shown in them the norm. The reality turns out to be completely different: real women look completely different from actresses in studio lighting, intricate poses bring nothing but bewilderment, and non-standard practices give partners not the unearthly pleasure promised from the screen, but disgust and pain.

Much more productive ways to increase your competence in intimate matters is to study modern views on the anatomy and physiology of sex and, of course, a sincere willingness to focus on the desires of the second participant in the process, and not pornographic "standards."

2. Division of sex into "real" (sexual intercourse) and "fake" (everything else)

Reducing the entire variety of sexual practices to penis-vaginal contact is a direct way to turn intimate relationships into a dull "obligation". Touches, kisses, caresses, all kinds of sex toys - all this is no less, and for many, much more important than the sexual act itself.

There are a lot of ways to get and give pleasure, and it would be at least strange to follow certain social "norms" in a case involving only two people

3. Duration of frictions as an indicator of the quality of sex

Quite often, the time during which a man can continue intercourse, restraining ejaculation, is considered as a criterion for his solvency in bed.

Meanwhile, women do not always equate the duration of frictions and the quality of sex

If a partner, keen on achieving "records", forgets to listen to the partner's reaction, not noticing how her arousal decreases, and the vaginal lubrication dries up - prolonged coitus can cause discomfort and even microtraumas of the vaginal mucosa.

4. Finding a "universal" way to satisfy your partner

This stereotype is a consequence of another common belief among men: that all women behave and feel according to some "uniform pattern." Of course, this is not so: all people are different, and the sexual sphere, like any other, reflects a variety of personal characteristics and preferences.

The fact that the man's previous partner preferred certain positions or caresses does not at all oblige the next one to follow the same “program”. This means that in order to achieve mutual pleasure, it is important to take into account not the abstract preferences of "women in general", but the wishes of that particular girl with whom an intimate relationship is being built at the moment.

5. Mythology around the female orgasm

The low level of knowledge about the physiology and anatomy of the female reproductive system gives rise to a whole series of myths about what the “correct” female orgasm should be.

Someone demands a vaginal orgasm from a partner and stubbornly searches for a "G-spot" - although in fact, during intercourse, the inner part of the clitoris is stimulated, so the concept of "vaginal orgasm" in principle looks dubious. Someone, after reading about the prevalence of "simulated release", is looking for signs of "real orgasm" - instead of wondering why a woman even needed to use acting skills in bed.

The truth is that orgasm, like other bodily manifestations, is deeply individual and depends on many factors - primarily psychological properties

6. The incompatibility of romance and talking about contraception

In the 21st century, there are still people who believe that talking about measures to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies "kills" all passion. It is easy to guess that most of the risks of neglecting contraception go to women - and how many will feel comfortable enough with a partner who jeopardizes her health safety?

Perhaps it is worth overcoming the embarrassment and discussing precautions in advance so that at the most crucial moment both participants can feel confident and direct their attention to receiving pleasure, and not worrying about possible consequences.

Everything can be corrected

As sexologists say, "an orgasm starts from the head" - which means that full-fledged pleasure is impossible without real trust and psychological relaxation. The key to ensuring that sexual relations bring joy and pleasure to both partners is an attentive and respectful attitude towards each other.

An open discussion of one's own preferences and taboos, a joint search for new sensations and a willingness to listen to emotional and bodily reactions improve sex much more effectively than the most advanced techniques obtained in courses or through training videos

Equally important is respect for the personality of a partner or partner - without this base, intimate relationships will remain a mechanical action, providing bodily "relaxation" at best for both participants, or even only one of them. First of all, this respect is shown in starting sex - everyone, not just the first! - only with the active consent of both parties. If one of the couple feels tired, sick, or simply not ready at the moment, "pushing" or "beating" can only generate alienation, but showing concern "here and now", on the contrary, strengthens mutual trust.

According to the joking admission of many women in private conversations, nothing excites passion like a cooked dinner, dishes washed without reminders and a child laid on time - and, as you know, in every joke there is only a fraction of a joke, and everything else is true!