Table of contents:
- Many of us are familiar with the situation when instead of the expected emotions from a relationship with a person, you get something completely different. Disappointment is a terrible thing that takes all the strength and kills the desire to strive for something … But often it is far from immediately possible to make a decision that it is better to leave
- 1. Hits - means he loves?
- 2. "You are so scary!"
- 3. "Mask, I know you"
- 4. "Support me!"
- 5. Trust but Verify?
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Many of us are familiar with the situation when instead of the expected emotions from a relationship with a person, you get something completely different. Disappointment is a terrible thing that takes all the strength and kills the desire to strive for something … But often it is far from immediately possible to make a decision that it is better to leave
Someone pity their partner, someone else harbors the hope “what if everything will change for the better,” someone is afraid of a scandal. However, one must be able to let go of even a loved one on time.
1. Hits - means he loves?
Unfortunately, the topic of domestic violence is acute not only in our country. There are many women all over the world who, at least once in their lives, have become a victim of a domestic tyrant. One sad episode was enough for someone, but someone had to go to the hospital to realize what was happening and stop enduring the beatings.
Remember - if a man at least once raised his hand to a woman, he experienced a shift in the boundaries of what is permitted. And now to hit the one who will not give him back is the norm for him. This means there is no guarantee that this will not happen again. If you don't want life to turn into a nightmare, run away from such a man, and as soon as possible. Because you no longer have a relationship.
2. "You are so scary!"
Believe it or not, there are girls who tolerate such words addressed to them from a loved one. The "light" version is when the partner points out the real or fictional flaws of his woman. If you hear phrases like “You need to lose weight” with a weight of 50 kg in your address, “You have too small / big breasts”, “You should make your lips bigger” - you should know that these relationships are going downhill. Your partner does not like you and, trying to inspire you with far-fetched complexes, tries to rise above you. Do you need it?
3. "Mask, I know you"
We are all living people, with our own "cockroaches" and worldview. It so happens that at some moments it does not coincide with the attitude of even the closest person. In the heat of an argument, you can inadvertently offend your partner, after which usually adults ask each other for forgiveness. And that's okay. It is worse if a person offends on purpose, trying to walk over the most "sore calluses", deeply wounding. And in response we pretend that everything is fine.
Grievances accumulate, we seem to be overgrown with armor and tell ourselves that this is not at all important. However, let's be straightforward - after such attacks, we are unlikely to look with loving eyes. Because we can forgive, but not forget … and this will always poison the relationship. So is it worth it to continue?
4. "Support me!"
Remember when your mom as a child encouraged you when you had a serious exam or a performance at a school party? Often, her kind words and faith in your strength helped even in the most difficult situations. The support of family and friends is important for adults as well, because life is unpredictable and does not always look like a holiday.
I especially want to hear words of approval from a loved one. But if they are not there, if your partner constantly doubts your competencies, experience, determination and tells you that you will not be able to cope, then he does not value you in principle. Because the one who loves rejoices at every success of a loved one and gives energy and faith in himself with his confidence in the successful outcome of the case. Therefore, if you do not hear anything but criticism in your address, think about whether it is time to end this connection.
5. Trust but Verify?
Another important point that suggests that it is time to leave is the lack of trust in your partner. And it doesn't matter if you don't trust or you are forced to make excuses and account all the time. In any case, this relationship will not last long. Jealousy is a very difficult feeling, it is almost impossible to get rid of it. Especially if there is a reason for it. The occasion, which was once, casts doubt on feelings in principle. A person begins to remember all the cases that once happened, and think - was there something then, or not?
Any new acquaintance or harmless text message from a work colleague can trigger a fit of such rage that it becomes scary. Remember the classics - no matter how I loved Othello Desdemona, jealousy overshadowed everything. Therefore, if there is no more trust in a person, you should not continue to torment each other. It is better to suffer now than to live for years in the feeling that they are being dishonest with you.
Of course, this is not a complete list of signs of "toxic" relationships. This also includes other factors: the lack of attention from the partner, and lies, and scandals and quarrels "in public." But the above points clearly indicate that the time for parting has already come and can no longer be tolerated.