3 Types Of People Who Are Afraid To Love. Check If You Belong To Them - Relationships, Society

People who are afraid to love may have multiple platforms to cultivate their fear. The most common version of why people are afraid to love is a global disappointment in love experienced in the past

The classic version of the development of events: a person experienced great love and was ultimately left alone with his suffering. He was abandoned, betrayed, not appreciated, he was cheated on, etc. In general, love traumatized a person. Then he left the acute state for a long time, then, in a chronic form, he dragged the suffering with him through life.

1st type. Disappointed

The main reason: personality viscosity.

There is such a term in psychology - personality viscosity. Such people are characterized by a lack of flexibility, immaturity of the psyche, get stuck in stress, do not struggle with it, constantly delve into their problem, analyze something and regularly press the red pain button. Having experienced a strong disappointment in love, they did not let go of the situation, did not get out of it, did not rework, did not adapt to a new life, did not forget anything and continue to be under stress. After the experience, they no longer imagine what could be different. For them, love is equal to suffering.

2nd type. Unloved children

Main reason: The basic emotion of love is undeveloped.

The second option, why people are afraid to love, has its roots in childhood. Such people, as small children, lacked love. Their parents disliked them. This applies to both ordinary children, who had dads and mothers, and children from an orphanage, who have such a basic emotion as love, in their infancy: they basically do not know how to love.

For those who were disliked in childhood, love is equated with something terrible and incomprehensible. Like most people, they are afraid of everything new, and love is a completely new emotion for them. If the situation takes on a tinge of pathology, such people remain alone and even begin to hide from the world. For people who were deprived of childhood, love - a natural feeling for every person - remains an undisclosed feeling.

3rd type. Uncompromising careerists

The main reason: the prohibition to feel, experience emotions.

The third type of people who are afraid of love are modern careerists. This personality type is still not very popular in Russia, but there are already many such young people in European countries. These people deliberately give up love and emotions, because they are faced with more global, as they believe, tasks, for example, career advancement. Love is perceived by them as a hindrance to achieving goals. Such people deliberately shield themselves from emotional contact. Yes, they have sex, but they don't allow emotions. This personality type is a relatively new invention of mankind, it appeared about a hundred years ago. But the popularity of this approach is growing every day.