The Lay Psychologist: What Should Alert You? 3 Signs Of A Charlatan - Self-development

2023 Author: Oswald Adamson | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 20:18

In fact, this topic can be classified as creepy. There was a time when a psychologist's diploma could be bought in any underground passage and started practice. Getting an appointment with such a "specialist" with a purchased diploma is not just scary - it is dangerous. How to avoid a fatal mistake?

By the way, non-professional psychologists can also include people who received higher education, but did not study: those who ran to the top, without going into the essence, but received a diploma.

Just like in any other profession, finding a real specialist in psychology is a great luck. Therefore, it is very important, before going to an appointment with a psychologist, to find out about him the opinion of other people who have visited him for consultations, received answers to their questions, and solved their problems. This is what you should rely on when choosing a specialist.

Today, each person has the opportunity to attract attention to himself, to declare himself as a specialist - for this there are social networks, Instagram and other platforms that allow you to advertise yourself in the literal sense of the word.

Do not immediately believe everything that you see and hear, first read the reviews about this person, find out more about him, talk to his clients

3 signs that you are facing a lay psychologist

If you come to an appointment, three sure signs will help to understand how a professional psychologist is sitting in front of you.

The first sign. You cannot be heard

The false psychologist does not hear you well, it does not matter to him what you say, it seems to him from the doorway that he has already figured out you and understood everything about you. Such "specialists" speak more than they listen.

The first rule of the psychotherapist is to listen to a person, to do it thoroughly and scrupulously in order to immerse himself in his inner world, in his problems and subjective feelings. This is necessary in order to build an individual plan for getting the client out of the crisis.

If you listen to the stories of those who have visited a non-professional psychologist, they will most likely be very similar, since these "specialists" work according to a certain cliché and believe that everyone can be cut with the same brush and led the same way along the path of psychotherapeutic treatment.

Conclusion. If you come to a “specialist” who does not listen to you, interrupts, they look at you with an empty and disinterested glance, you have come to a non-professional psychologist

Second sign. You are clearly inclined to one of the versions of what is happening

At the reception, pay attention to whether the psychologist is persuading you to one of the versions / reasons for what is happening. For example, the classic of the genre is to blame everything on the mother or grandmother, or, in principle, on the parents, blame them for all their sins, and in this way sort of solve the issue.

Of course, it often happens that our parents are indirectly to blame for our problems. But this does not always happen, I would even say - in less than half of the cases, so do not forget that we are still responsible for what is happening in our life.

Conclusion. When you come to the reception, test the psychologist himself - mark several different points in your problems, if everything is reduced to the parents, then this is a sure sign that you are facing a non-professional psychologist

Third sign. After consultation, you become depressed

If, after visiting a psychologist, you leave in an even worse state (confused, lost, depressed, etc.) than when you arrived, then you have come to see a non-professional psychologist.

Of course, you will not solve all your questions in one go, but by the end of the session a professional psychologist should bring you to such an emotional point so that he would be calm for you.