10 Facts About Orgasm - Relationship, Sex

We know that the highest peak of pleasure in sex, that very cherry on the cake, is orgasm. We know how orgasm manifests itself in men and women. We know that the latter often simulate it. We know that at the moment of orgasm there is an enormous release of hormones. Do we all know? And are we missing something important that would help us better understand and satisfy our partner?

1. Orgasm must be learned

Sad statistics show that only a third of women experience orgasm with a partner, while, by stimulating themselves, almost every one comes to the peak. Alone with herself, a woman is completely relaxed, she is not ashamed of her manifestations, she feels her body. In a couple, she can be distracted by external stimuli. Or feel psychological discomfort (the reasons may be different - from rejection of your body to banal fatigue).

Also, there may not be enough trust and warmth in a relationship. In any case, it must be borne in mind that the female orgasm is a complex mechanism. Sometimes it takes time, physical, mental and mental resources to learn to have an orgasm with a partner.

2. Men also pretend

According to statistics, women fake orgasm many times more often, but men do it too. Sometimes it is easier to convince a partner of the successful outcome of sexual intercourse (she will not go, in fact, to study the contents of a condom) than to exhaust herself or explain the reasons for the failure. And there are a great many of them: these are age-related changes, and a complex of uncertainty, or, on the contrary, hypercontrol, and high expectations, and fatigue or illness.

3. The clitoris is not a button

Stimulation of the clitoris helps to effectively bring a woman to orgasm. It seems to be a well-known fact. But for some reason everyone forgets that the structure of the clitoris is much more interesting than a lonely bump on top of the world. In addition to the head of the clitoris, there are also clitoral legs that frame the entrance to the vagina.

There are many other vessels and nerve endings. Do not pay attention only to the head of the clitoris, as if it were a button to turn the light on and off. The clitoris is an extensive erogenous zone. If you study it thoughtfully, it will benefit both parties to the process.

4. The G-spot is not a myth

Only she is not the point. This is a whole area of the anterior wall of the vagina behind the pubic bone and urethra, located at a depth of 2–7 cm. Someone has it more, someone less (sometimes they write about the size of a pea), all people are different. But you need to look for her at least because the process itself is exciting and gives a woman pleasure from new pleasant sensations. If you do find her, this pleasure can also result in a full orgasm.

5. Men also have a G-spot

The G-spot in women was discovered by chance by a gynecologist, but who and how discovered the G-spot in men is kept silent. Interestingly, some men themselves do not know about the existence of this point, and another part considers it an inappropriate type of sexual contact due to homophobic stereotypes. And all because the G zone in men is the prostate gland, in the people - the prostate, the stimulation of which gives them great pleasure.

6. Heels can be erogenous too

Everyone knows about the existence of erogenous zones, and if you ask about them, you will surely hear a “rating” written down as a carbon copy (penis, clitoris, nipple, neck, etc.). Meanwhile, a person's body is individual, just like his character and way of thinking. And even the jagged erogenous zones will differ for everyone - including the degree of excitability.

And it may also easily turn out that your partner will have the forearm, or the lumbar region, or the foot as the most tender and responsive to caress point. Study each other. And the path of researchers, again, will bring both a lot of pleasure.

7. Time matters

Unlike size. On average, it takes a man from 5 to 12 minutes to reach orgasm at the stage of frictions, and a woman from 16 to 22 minutes. Thus, two trains leaving point A to point B reach it at different speeds.

In this sense, foreplay, which now comes into fashion, then comes out of it again, for a woman is more a biological necessity than a whim. And if a man's orgasm came earlier and the partner needs more time and additional stimulation, then you can help to get pleasure manually.

8. "Headache" - a reason to have sex

During sexual intercourse, a woman releases a large amount of endorphins - the body's natural pain relievers. Their release through the central nervous system leads precisely to the reduction of all pains, including the notorious headache. So maybe you shouldn't rush to give up sex because of a headache, maybe sex will work faster than aspirin?

9. For a man - a dream, a woman - hugs

By the way, about hormones. Women are often offended that after sex a man does not respond to their playfulness and desire to communicate. And completely in vain. It's like taking offense at a man for being a man. The fact is that the hormonal burst at the moment of orgasm differs in men and women.

In lovely ladies, in addition to "happiness" in the form of endorphins, the level of prolactin (a lactogenic hormone responsible for the formation of breast milk in women) and oxytocin (which is responsible for the formation of mother-child relationships, attachment relationships) increases. Simply put, after sexual intercourse, an active and active maternal essence, a feeling of closeness, awakens in women.

In men, firstly, "happiness" comes in the form of serotonin, which brings euphoria and attention! - relaxation. And secondly, the level of animal starch - glycogen, which is responsible for muscle tone, decreases. That is, our hero literally goes limp and spreads over the bed.

So let's give everyone their own:

• for a man - a healthy sleep in order to recuperate as quickly as possible;
• a woman - gentle hugs (albeit with a sleeping partner).

10. Orgasm is not a duty

Good sex is not always the sex that leads to orgasm. Orgasm is not an indicator. And do not put it at the forefront. Mark as required target. Strive for it at all costs.

Orgasm could happen, but sex could not make any impression. Conversely, great intercourse may not result in a mutual orgasm. It happens. And quite often. After entering into an intimate relationship, we do not just solve a physiological problem from the series "digging from the fence until lunchtime." We exchange emotions, energy.

In sex, openness, trust, the ability to look for options together, to discuss things that are usually not accepted are very important. And in this sense, the closeness of partners often plays a more significant role than anything else. Simply put, good sex is always a relationship, not exercise.