4 Reasons For Outbursts Of Aggression - Relationships, Society

Have you ever wondered how often we are faced with aggressive behavior, especially unmotivated? Such behavior does not always mean a direct threat to life and health. But it can cause moral damage, psychological trauma and negative emotional consequences

Faced with insults, rudeness and other manifestations of aggression, answer yourself one question: how much is what is happening, connected with you? Did anything come from you that actually provoked this response?

Man is by nature a being, dissatisfied with everyone else

Josef Czapek

It happens that we are distracted and ran into a stranger, accidentally stepped on a leg in a transport, dressed in a white sneaker. But often retaliatory aggression occurs, as they say, "from scratch."

What motivates people to react aggressively? Let's consider several reasons for aggressive behavior in spontaneous situations.

1. Lack of elementary education and culture

Such a person, in principle, does not know how to behave in society. He follows the “knurled” path of forceful, aggressive influence, since other programs of behavior are alien to him. This reason is one of the most common conflicts to start, no matter how banal it may seem.

The person himself is not guilty that he was born in a certain environment, did not receive basic education, but at a more conscious age, an understanding of the ineffectiveness of the model of interaction with others usually comes.

A person begins to learn, realize his mistakes and form the skills of social behavior, thereby accepting the norms of society

But he is not always aware of this need for development and continues to adhere to the only familiar pattern of behavior in adulthood. It is customary for him to respond with rudeness and aggression to appeals to him.

2. The best defense is offense

By blaming others, we absolve ourselves of responsibility for our own wrongdoing. The other is to blame, not me. The ability to take responsibility for one's actions is formed at a certain age, after about four to five years.

Here's a very simple example - imagine a three-year-old child running across the lawn and stumbling over a bench. Who is to blame for this situation? At this age - a bench, it is not there and prevents the child from continuing to run.

At an older age, the child is already able to realize that he himself is to blame, because he did not look where he ran. However, this internal responsibility is not always formed and not for everyone due to various aspects of upbringing. This means that at the age of 30 the “child” will blame the bench for his failures.

In psychology, there is such a concept - "locus of control". This is the property of a person to attribute his successes or failures to either only internal or only external factors

If a person is inclined to attribute the results of activity exclusively to external factors, this is an external locus of control (the same child who blames the bench). And a person's tendency to attribute the results of activity only to internal factors is, accordingly, an internal locus of control. In fact, these are two ways of working with responsibility.

It is easier for people with an external locus to react aggressively to the comments of others, since they blame external circumstances and people around them for their failures

3. "Black line" in life or emotional breakdown

No one is immune from such a situation, everyone can accumulate negative emotions. And if you do not let them come out in doses, then sooner or later there will be a breakdown from their overabundance. It's like steam in a boiling kettle: when the water boils, it has to go somewhere.

A person in this state can break at us because of a trifle, which he sees as the last straw of his misadventures

4. State of passion

It looks like something like a breakdown, but without a preliminary "lump" of negative experiences.

Affect is an emotional state when it is difficult for us to control ourselves, our behavior, when a person can suddenly flare up, hit, swear

Someone from the outside may take this for aggression at their own expense. For example, a car poured a person out of a puddle right in front of the store, he is emotionally worked up, enters the store and breaks down on the seller, and not on the car driver who is not available to him. Affect occurs situationally, as opposed to a breakdown.

We have listed the main reasons for aggressive behavior in which the victim of the attack is not the true cause of the aggressor's emotions.

It is not always worth taking on someone else's aggression. Yes, it may be directed at us, but not because of us. And this is a big difference.

Knowledge of the mechanisms of aggressive behavior helps us not to take someone else's aggression at our own expense, to filter its causes and to protect ourselves from unnecessary negative emotions