Alexander Mokhovikov On Narcissistic Love - Relationships, Society

A benevolent attitude towards all people and the world is one of the clinical forms of narcissistic arrogance. It is followed by the equally arrogant doing good to people - and aerobatics - also to the world.

Usually accompanied by narcissistic blindness - that the world does not care about us. Joy for all people and also for the world is a form of narcissistic dropsy. You can become so swollen that there is a threat of bursting from an overabundance of joy. In large doses, it can become poisonous.

There is a big difference between a narcissistic effort to love everyone and compassion

Narcissistic love is a top-down attitude and comes from their desire to be the best, holy, correct, which underneath contains the fear of rejection, the shame of being themselves. Compassion says: "I am the same as you, we are in the same boat, I understand what you are going through, I was there too."

For the first to be able to move into the second, you will have to find yourself in yourself, naked, imperfect, vulnerable, defenseless, weak, needy, cruel, cowardly, indifferent, helpless, stupid, deluded, lying, avoiding and arrogant.

Only from this point is compassion possible. Compassion is selective, it implies a meeting with a specific person and experience in the here and now and is very tied to the context, and narcissistic love seems to be to everyone and to no one at once, blind, not seeing people, acontextual, existing only in imagination and having its energy falling in love with the image of oneself perfect. Compassion is not draining, it imparts wisdom, narcissistic love drains and contributes to the loss of connection with reality.

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