Personality Type - Anxious - Quality Of Life, Society

Anxious children are afraid of everything: shouting on the street, insolent behavior of their peers during games, sleeping in the dark, being at home alone. They often become the victims of bullying, "scapegoats". Often, adults aggravate the fears of such babies, escalate them instead of dissipating them. As a rule, anxious children prefer to communicate with the younger ones, they are calmer with them, and they are afraid of the older ones, including teachers

How scary to live

From childhood, anxious people develop symptom complexes that correspond to the picture of social phobia. This is the fear of social interaction, the fear to appear in an unfavorable light in front of others, to demonstrate stupidity or stiffness.

One of the cardinal traits of an anxious nature is "forward anxiety" - the desire to avoid anxious situations. Growing up, anxious personalities, of course, are no longer afraid of thunderstorms and dogs, but with a seemingly quite favorable situation of life, anxiety still lives in their background.

It can manifest itself in the form of an obsession with repeated control, when a person, having already reached work, suddenly returns home to check whether he has turned off the iron, whether the door is locked. Upon returning and making sure that everything is in order, the person feels relief, but only until the next alarming situation occurs.

From an elephant fly

Imagine a young woman living separately from her beloved mother. For the time being, she works successfully (anxious people, as a rule, are very executive, because they are afraid to cope with something and cause the anger of their superiors), but one day my mother calls and, as if by the way, tells that she was recently on a scheduled examination in polyclinic.

She was diagnosed with low hemoglobin, prescribed medications, which she will soon be normal. What happens when this information is understood in the soul of an anxious daughter? Well, of course, she will wind herself up so much that she will already present the farewell ceremony with her mother. Such thoughts will make it extremely difficult for a girl to live a normal life, smile at colleagues and maintain light conversations with them. A fixation has already occurred in her head on a negative event, which, as she thinks, will have tragic consequences.

Scapegoats

Based on psychiatric parameters, anxious people do not need hospitalization, their conditions are easily corrected on an outpatient basis (by regular visits to a psychologist or psychotherapist). Anxiety is a neurotic level of damage.

It is not easy for such people to live because situations that cause them anxiety arise again and again

Even as adults, anxious individuals remain incapable of defending their position in an argument. They are vulnerable because there will always be someone more energetic and confident and will put them in their place. They are timid and submissive, easy to "ride" on them.

It is the anxious people who finish everything for everyone and still turn out to be "scapegoats" if the authorities find something to complain about. They are constantly alert to external stimuli. Such people need stable social connections, it is easier for them to communicate with those whom they have studied long ago. They are hypersensitive and extremely impressionable, constantly afraid to do something wrong and to bother someone.

Anxious people tend to be compassionate, conscientious and always ready to help and support someone in distress

They are fixed on ideas about their unattractiveness and social unsuitability. They are characterized by constant introspection, a feeling of disharmony in their inner world and exaggeration of their own shortcomings. Usually such people are well compensated, with a stable lifestyle they manage to overcome their doubts.

We play and sing

As an aid to such people, mastering the technique of acting is ideal, at least at an amateur level. As you play the role, you can practice dealing with your fears.

Often, anxiety goes hand in hand with logoneurosis - simply speaking, stuttering. Disbelief in oneself sometimes reaches such a critical point that the mere pronunciation of words becomes a problem. The more a person stutters, the less he believes in his own ability to overcome the disease.

Vocal therapy can help, since the process of pronouncing words in singing is laid on a musical basis. Particularly anxious people love songs that they remember from childhood. In my practice, there was a case when six months of vocal therapy sessions led to the patient getting rid of stuttering even in speech, and not only in the performance of lullabies.