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Video: Film "Waiting For A Miracle": Help Of A Fictional Friend - Reviews, Self-development
Waiting for a miracle
- Russia, 2007
- Director: Evgeniy Bedarev
- Starring: Ekaterina Kolpanova, Vladimir Krylov, Nina Ruslanova, Olesya Sudzilovskaya
The main character Maya is a young naive girl working in the world of advertising. She tries to be a "good girl", loves cats, dreams of great love, while suffering from fullness and loneliness, self-rejection. She is annoyed by everything, including the name
Suddenly, a miracle appears in her life - a magic Fairy, an analogue of the Fairy godmother, only in a male version. He begins to give her advice, thanks to which she changes: creates a creative project, loses weight, meets long-awaited love …
This is a cute modern fairy tale, whose humor and self-irony do not allow it to be sugary and sugary. The plot is built on the phenomenon of a “fictional friend”, like the famous Carlson, only in an adult version.
A friend suddenly appeared …
Not only children, but also adults resort to the "fictitious friend". It's just that children can believe in him (this is normal for childhood), and an adult remains critical and understands that he is just fantasizing (if we are talking about a mentally healthy person).
Sometimes the prototype of a "fictional friend" can be a book or movie hero, or even a real person. Moreover, if we are talking about a real prototype, then this is a certain well-known, but not personally familiar person (for example, a pop idol in whom a teenage girl falls in love and mentally shares her problems). It's easier to idealize a stranger …
Whatever the “fictional friend” may be, he has one role - to compensate for the deficit, the lack of something. One who feels unprotected invents a mighty protector; suffering from a lack of love - fantasizes about a partner; etc.
The appearance of a "fictional friend" in fantasies speaks of dissatisfaction with real life. And then we need to clarify:
- What exactly is the person dissatisfied with?
- Why is this made-up friend like that?
- What role does a friend play?
- What does he give to his creator?
And then this deficit can be satisfied consciously. For example, lack of security - feel your own strength. You are not satisfied with a relationship with a real partner - try to change it for the better.
It is no coincidence that Fey is precisely a "fairies", a young charming man, and not an elderly godmother. The heroine clearly lacks male support and attention. Fey raises the girl's self-esteem, restores her faith in herself.
Real help
In certain periods of life, in difficult situations, a "made-up friend" can be a resource.
For example, during exciting public appearances, you can imagine that he is standing nearby. Sometimes you can voice your concerns to a fake friend, and that will bring relief.
When the deficit is met, the need for a “fictional friend” disappears. And he disappears, as Fey disappeared.
But sometimes a "made up friend" can be a problem.
Stop dreaming
Signs that a “fictional friend” is already getting in the way rather than helping do more harm than good:
- 1. You gradually begin to perceive him as a real person.
- 2. Spend more and more time with him. Gradually, symbolic communication with him replaces real relationships.
- 3. Your real life begins to suffer: you compare real people with the bright image of a "fictional friend", and they lose.
- 4. You dream of a "fictitious friend" more and more often. More often than anyone else.
- 5. You want your “fictional friend” to become real, ordinary fantasies are no longer enough. And you get frustrated that this is not possible.
