What Are Men Afraid Of? Work - Image

In the hierarchy of importance in the first place for most men is the item "my business, what I do, my job." This motivates, makes you make a lot of effort to achieve success, develop and enjoy victories.

At the same time, men have various fears regarding this area of life - and because of its high importance, such experiences can be difficult to cope with. Consider what men are afraid of and what to do about it.

1. Dismissal

The main fear about a job is the fear of losing it. The reasons are clear: work is not just a place of duty, but much more. Work is a way of self-realization, satisfaction of one's ambitions; it is financial well-being (personal, family); it is self-respect for professionalism and achievement. In general, if work is the core of life, then the thought of its possible loss becomes very bad.

Everything is good in moderation - and such experiences are too: we value what is valuable to us, and we are afraid of losing it - and this is normal. It is abnormal if these fears interfere with life, increasing without reason.

Then the situation must be investigated. Ask yourself:

• Why am I afraid right now that I might lose my job?
• Is it from self-doubt?
• Or did something happen, fraught with dismissal?
• How realistic are my concerns?

Look fear in the face and mentally replay the worst scenario. Make sure that even then you are alive and life goes on.

If the problems run up against self-doubt, then it is best not to self-medicate, but to work a little with a psychologist: you will get the result faster and better.

2. Reputation

“A lot to the left, a lot to the right of all sorts of troubles,” as the hero of one cartoon said. Various events threaten to one degree or another damage a man's reputation in his work.

Many fear conflict with their superiors. The boss has power, and he can use it not for good: to pronounce a reprimand, deprive of bonuses, publicly criticize, demote, eventually fire.

Since information about conflicts with subordinates can reach the management and have negative consequences, this is also a cause for concern.

Those who seek to move up the career ladder fear that they will be bypassed by others, that another person will be appointed to a higher position.

Sometimes employees are afraid of negative customer reviews - in companies where such cases can be unpleasant.

The positive function of the listed fears is that they force you to think over your actions and act not impulsively, but consciously

It is worth thinking seven times before “declaring war”, going into conflict, and aggravating relations.

On the other hand, there is no need to dramatize everything that happens: more often than not, these are just working moments, which must be treated calmly and constructively.

3. Money

For most men, work is a way to make a living, and not just for yourself. In our society, the task of providing financial support to the family almost always rests on men's shoulders: most often either the husband earns more than his wife, or the wife takes care of the children and the house, and the husband is the only breadwinner.

Moreover, for many men, the main way to show love and care for their wife and family is to earn so much money to ensure a good life: spacious housing, a car (preferably two), traveling abroad, expensive shopping, entertainment.

Therefore, men are worried about everything that can cause a deterioration in the financial side of their work (and life). Salaries, bonuses, bonuses are all topics of thought and cause for concern.

Although ambitious workaholics do not like the saying "you can't earn all the money," it is true, as well as "money is not in happiness."

Without denying the importance of material achievements, I invite people who are overly worried about this to reconsider their system of values and priorities. Yes, money plays an important role in our life, but we need to look wider and give the financial side a significant, but not the main place in life. Then the experiences will be balanced and the reactions are adequate.

4. Failures and mistakes

The work is like a minefield: you can "blow up" at any moment. No one is immune from unsuccessful negotiations, mistakes in the presentation, typos in the report and, in general, from a variety of mistakes and failures.

Two groups of people are very worried about this. First, perfectionists: they want everything to be perfect at all times. Secondly, people are anxious by nature: behind every mistake they see a big problem and grave consequences.

The "antidote" is to change your irrational attitudes to more healthy and balanced ones.

It is banal, but true: "The one who does nothing is not mistaken." And also - "Learn from mistakes."

We need to get out of the habit of treating mistakes the way we were taught in school. Everything is experience, and it is necessary for development and growth.