Reasonable Body - Self-development

Man is whole and that is why he is a man. Is the whole equal to the sum of the parts? Of course not. A melody is more than a collection of sounds, and a person is not just a collection of organs. Our integrity binds together the mental sphere (thoughts, images, memories), emotional and physical - the body itself. How do thoughts affect feelings and are reflected in the body?

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Any thought is accompanied by emotion and bodily reaction, but they can be hidden, minimized and not obvious to a person. Our body manages to react and remember this thought and this feeling.

Over time, the body becomes a repository for unexpressed feelings and unrealized ideas. After all, we, people, are social creatures, and in self-expression we cannot be completely free.

There is such a joke: "What prevents you from being yourself?" - "Rules of etiquette and the criminal code". We may have so-called “negative thoughts” that we would like to avoid. For example, cheat on your partner, steal your favorite thing at a party, scratch the car of an unpleasant neighbor. We can cheat ourselves, program for failure: think about failure in upcoming negotiations, imagine that we are in an awkward situation. Negative thoughts are innumerable, and they are accompanied by one or another feeling: irritation, envy, shame, fear.

Our body instinctively reacts to feeling, emotion is a command for the body. Anger makes you tense your jaws, fear makes you grow cold and shrink, shame makes you look down and blush. Perhaps the reaction occurred for a split second, but the body has already reacted and remembered this situation. Therefore, people with one way or another mindset accumulate certain emotions and form the usual muscle tension and body position. And the "mentality" depends on the childhood experience, it is an unconscious family scenario.

The psychological rule says that if the internal situation is not realized, it turns into external events

Carl Gustav Jung

For example, a child was constantly shamed, and, growing up, he automatically begins to blame himself even where it is inappropriate.

Remember "Prisoner of the Caucasus"? "Then, on the ruins of the chapel …" - "Excuse me, did I ruin the chapel too?" - "No, that was before you, in the XIV century."

The body of such a person carries a lot of shame - he slouches, walks with his head down, looks at his feet, avoids a direct glance at the interlocutor, his diaphragm is very tense.

And in another family, the child was constantly "frightened": "Look under your feet, now you will fall!", "Try to be invisible," "Children are constantly being run over by cars," etc. Usually this kind of intimidation of a child by the "big world" is an attempt to keep him in his parents' house, not to let him fly out of the nest.

As a result, such a person constantly assumes terrible situations, unfavorable outcomes, there is a lot of fear in his body: his head is pressed into his shoulders, his hands seem to be pressed to the body, his eyes are widened, the body is rigid, breathing is limited.

Joy under lock and key

The body hides not only unexpressed "negative" thoughts and feelings, but also "positive" ones. After all, family and society often prohibit the expression of joy, love, tenderness.

For example, a boy wants to express tender love for his mother, and his father slows down: they say, what are you, girl, what kind of nuns?

In reality, the father may be jealous of his wife for his son, and the boy is prohibited from showing tenderness, a "severe macho" complex is formed, and in the future it is difficult for him to open his heart to a woman.

Thoughts affect our senses and body, but there is also feedback. Through the body we can influence our own thoughts

For example, you suffer from self-doubt, lack of a sense of your own worth. Try to stand or sit steadily, straighten your back, straighten your shoulders, and raise your chin.

After a while, self-confidence will begin to come to you. Thoughts and self-perception will become more positive.

4 exercises "The body changes thoughts"

1. Track the inner belief that you want to change. If situations of a certain type arise regularly in your life, then there is something behind them. For example, behind repeated betrayal is the belief that no one can be trusted. Behind a broken relationship is what you might need, etc.

2. Ask yourself - where does it live in the body? How does it manifest itself? For example, the belief “Nobody cares about me” can live in the chest and feel like a cold lump, a constriction, restricting breathing.

3. Close your eyes and imagine that you are breathing through this zone. Hold this breathing for 10-15 minutes, you can turn on relaxing music in the background.

4. Return to your original belief. How has it changed? Perhaps the phrase itself has changed or an addition has appeared. For example, "There are people who care about me."