Table of contents:
- HEALING MOUNTAIN
- BURNING: HOW TO EXPERIENCE THE DEATH OF A LOVE PERSON
- LETTER TO THE PAST LIFE
- FAREWELL TO THE SHADOW
- ENDED LIFE
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"Hold on", "We'll all be there", "Don't cry all the time", "He's better now than we are" - all these "good" and "wise" advice has to be heard by a person who has lost a loved one. And even more often, a bereaved person is completely isolated. And this is not because friends and colleagues are indifferent or cruel.
People are afraid not only of death as such, but also of someone else's grief. They want to help, but don't know how. They are afraid to "spoil" feelings, to show tactlessness, and not be able to console. And the secret is not in healing words, but in active listening and right questions. Just let me know that you are near.
Severe reactions to the death of close relatives are more natural than pathological. Especially if death comes unexpectedly. The experience of acute grief in such cases suggests that a person is not indifferent to the loss of someone who was dear to him.
BURNING: HOW TO EXPERIENCE THE DEATH OF A LOVE PERSON
A person in grief becomes isolated: the telephone does not ring in his house, people begin to avoid him. Why it happens? “A close friend of my friend died. I want to help, but I don't even know what to say. " People are afraid not only of death, but also of people who are experiencing the death of a loved one.
LETTER TO THE PAST LIFE
Fear, guilt, an unfulfilled desire to possess the qualities of a superman, a magician and a wizard, sadness, pity, sympathy - this is an incomplete spectrum of feelings that we can experience. How can we help a suffering person?
FAREWELL TO THE SHADOW
Empathizing with the one who is around, and not diving into yourself is not easy at all. Indeed, at this moment our own existential fears "raise their heads". Awareness of the fragility and unpredictability of life comes to the fore.
The fear of death, oddly enough, has a very indirect relationship to the very process of dying. People who have faced death often argue that, in fact, dying is not scary. The fear of death is more about the dying of a person, about the disagreement of our consciousness with the possibility of his disappearance.