What Your Photos With Your Loved Ones Say - Relations

Photography is a frozen moment of life. She can tell what the person himself will not tell - he may not be aware of himself a lot. No wonder they say: "From the outside it is better to know."

Let's imagine photography as an iceberg. Above the water, only its tip is what they are trying to demonstrate consciously on us, in most cases - success, happiness, superiority … But most of the iceberg is hidden under water, even if the photo is staged, we can still see the true state of affairs. Behind the Hollywood smile you can see aggression, you can see melancholy in the eyes … Random pictures are especially informative, they are able to reveal secrets.

Joint photo with a partner

Pay attention to the following criteria:

• 1. What is the distance between you in the pictures?

  You've probably heard about the "communication zones" - the distance to which we admit. The closer and dearer a person is to us, the more trust, the less distance. So there is a direct relationship between psychological closeness and spatial distance between partners. The distance in the photograph reflects the degree of psychological closeness and trust.

• 2. How much body contact is there between you?

  Bodily contact speaks of trust between partners (we admit only those who do not pose a danger to us to our body). And also - about the degree of sexual attraction. Passion is very difficult to fake: you can lie about it in words, but the body will not let you lie. With an object that is sexually interesting for us, we want maximum bodily contact, the bodies seem to be magnetized to each other, partners at every opportunity try to touch each other, hug …

• 3. Are both partners drawn to each other?

  True love is mutual, the reality is that only one partner can be interested in a relationship, and the second only responds to someone else's impulse towards him, “allows himself to be loved,” as they say. This kind of relationship model speaks of the low self-esteem of the first partner and the second's narcissism.

• 4. How often do you look at each other in the pictures?

  Love leads to focusing on the object of interest, he is a figure, everything else is a background. If interest in a partner is sincere, dictated not by calculation or fear of loneliness, but by obligation, then the partner is often in the focus of attention. His reactions, his condition, etc. are interesting. Does the camera often catch your glances facing each other?

• 5. How often do you smile at each other, not at the camera?

  If the smile is not “etiquette,” it expresses pleasure and well-being. A smile suggests that partners are really good with each other, they are ready to express and share their joy.

• 6. How often do you hold hands?

  Palms are “windows of the heart”. The palm-palm contact speaks of cordial intimacy, deep psychological intimacy, readiness to open your heart to your partner and accept a heartfelt gift from him.

• 7. How often and how do you hug?

  Hugs are associated with psychological intimacy, the significance of the object and have multilevel symbolism. This is protection, and possession, and the desire to bestow warmth. Notice what your hug and your partner symbolize more: control, unwillingness to let go, fear of losing? Impulse to protect? Give warmth?

• 8. Are you posing or are you showing sincerity and spontaneity?

  Sometimes a relationship is built like a “calling card” - for the sake of being in a relationship. This kind of contact "phonites" is artificial and false, the photographs seem to be staged. They are beautiful, but they lack naturalness. "Business card relationships" are built by people for whom the assessment of others is very important, and then, for the sake of someone else's opinion, they can sacrifice themselves and their true interests. And sometimes the "business card" is addressed to very specific figures: "the former, so that he regretted that he lost," or "friend" with whom a competitive relationship is built …

• 9. Is bodily co-attunement visible - an unconscious coincidence of postures, gestures, facial expressions, glances?

  If the relationship between partners is sincere and deep, co-tuning takes place between them: bodily, emotional … And then the figures in the photographs seem to mirror each other.

• 10. Try to dream up. What do gestures, facial expressions, everyone's gaze say?

  What's the message if you put it into words? This "game" helps to understand the co-tuning of partners, the unconscious interaction between them. True, by associating, we can mix in our own projections.

• 11. Try to close one of the partners. Does the second lose something, is it clear that someone was next to him?

  Of course, the correct answer is: "Yes, he loses, and it is clear that there is a second character nearby." But not always there is a real meeting and exchange between partners, sometimes they are together only formally and each remains in isolation.

• 12. Imagine: who or what does this type of contact resonate with for you?

  Try to describe it in one word: friendship, struggle, flirting, tenderness, etc. At the same time, try to look at this picture as a photograph with strangers. You can suggest associations of this kind to your friends - perhaps they will give you a hint.

Now let's analyze the star photos

Johnny Depp

The wives of this popular Hollywood actor were Frenchwoman Vanessa Paradis and American Amber Heard, both actresses.

If Johnny Depp was looking for a better life, he is unlikely to find it. Alliances with the first and second wife are very different.

Please note: Depp and Paradis cling to each other even on the red carpet. Their bodies are attracted, it is mutual, the contact is close, it is determined not by formal necessity, but by internal desire. The arms are intertwined, a close palm-palm contact, and the palms are the “windows of the heart”. This speaks of a deep co-tuning, heart exchange in a couple. At the same time, he is more inclined to partner Depp, he gently covers her back with his hand - a very masculine gesture that says: "You are my woman, and I protect you."

But in the pictures with Hurd, the union is already formal, each on its own. Depp's hugs in one of the frames speak of possessiveness and demonstrativeness. This control, the desire to possess and brag, to show someone their happiness, is actually false. Could it be his ex-wife? Like, "look, I'm fine without you."

Well, unsurprisingly, the marriage to Heard was short-lived. As the saying goes, "Where there is no love, there is no happy family." But does Depp regret breaking up with Paradis? We won't be surprised if this is the case. He swapped out Paradis for a younger Heard at the age of 45, which is how some men struggle to cope with a midlife crisis and thoughts of aging. The method is ineffective …

Vladimir Vysotsky

The muse and wife of the Soviet bard, actor was the French actress Marina Vlady.

The type of relationship common in the USSR: woman-mother and man-child. Why? The XX century brought great losses among the male population, and women unconsciously began to take care of men, to infantilize them.

Do we see tender feelings in photographs? Yes. But they are more in line with parent-child relationships, not partnerships. See how tenderly they hug each other. Gently and very tightly, practically they cling to each other: "I can't live without you, I'm not ready to let you go." This is a message of codependent relationships characteristic of a couple in which there is a patient with alcoholism - it was this disease that Vysotsky suffered. A child and a parent cannot live without each other, but not equal adult partners.

Marina Vlady looks at her husband with care and tenderness, this is the look of the mother, not the wife. There is a lack of sexuality in their looks and body contact, which is especially noticeable in a photograph in which their bodies are half-naked. The contact is cordial and tender, partners need each other, but we do not see sexual exchange.

Photo: © Syda Productions / Photobank Lori