Tango Threesome - Relations

I have a somewhat unusual problem - my husband is jealous of me … dancing. I have been doing ballroom dancing for several years now. My husband liked my hobby, the fact that I was in good physical shape. But when I invited him to our competition, everything changed. I danced tango, my coach was a partner. And now my husband says that it was unpleasant for him to see my embrace with a "strange man", that he saw "real passion." Now my husband is against my hobby, but I don't want to quit dancing. Marina, 31 years old

Such problems often arise when there is no trust in the family between husband and wife and one of the spouses feels left out of attention. When your husband expresses his displeasure, try to hear him and understand: at this moment he is trying to indicate the discomfort he experiences from a mutual relationship.

Ask yourself: do you have any hobbies together, how often do you spend your free time together? Do you talk too often about your coach in an enthusiastic tone, thereby giving rise to jealousy?

Any man, if he loves, will feel insecure in a situation when a "stranger man" hugs his woman. Talk to your husband about what he means by "real passion." Perhaps you both miss her.

To make your husband understand that there is only a teacher-student friendly relationship between the coach and you, invite your husband to attend the training session. Better yet, involve him in dancing classes, this is very useful for restoring mutual understanding and renewing feelings.

Many family therapists who work with couples suggest that spouses start dancing together as homework. Such an activity helps to better hear and understand each other.

Jealousy is a source of torment for a lover and insults for a loved one

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Remember that family relationships are very fragile things that cost nothing to destroy. The family always rests on trust, so it is better not to sow unnecessary suspicion and protect each other's feelings.

You can ask questions to the psychologist Tatyana TIKHOMIROVA on the website at [email protected]