Is It Luxurious To Be Late Or Absurd To Be In Time? - Self-development

Accuracy - the politeness of kings. Getting to a meeting on time is highly regarded in the business world. But following the generally accepted laws of decency is not only beneficial for reputation, they play an important role in personal relationships. What is the reason for the constant delays and what effective measures can be taken?

Why are we running late?

It's simple: we do not come on time because we can afford it. Even the most absent-minded or unnecessary person is unlikely to be late for a meeting with Putin or for the first date with the girl of your dreams. Draconian penalties at work are also great discipline. In other words, anyone can arrive on time. And if he does not do this, it means that he simply does not want to. It does not set itself such a goal.

A late person does not mean bad. Rather, it tells about his attitude to the situation.

4 main reasons for being late

The subconscious desire to be late can be felt by every person - albeit implicitly. The most common reasons are:

• Unwillingness to do unpleasant things. For example, hard or time consuming work. And if skipping is not an option, then being late is quite a good way out. Especially if you pay for time, not for results.
• The desire to avoid making a difficult decision or responsibility: "If I am late for the meeting, then maybe lucky and the consideration of the problem will be postponed until next time."
• Demonstration of self-importance. An important person, unlike others, can afford to be late. Politicians and diplomats often use this deliberately. Ordinary people can act on a whim: for example, if your boss is constantly late, perhaps this is the only opportunity for him to stand out.
• Low importance of the event, when there is no way to refuse or ignore a boring meeting or appointment.

Deliberate and unconscious delays

Are there unconscious delays? Of course! If not permanent. In other cases, it makes sense to talk about relatively perceived delays. For example, a person knows the reason perfectly well, but voicing it to others or to himself is inconvenient or unpleasant. Therefore, it is easier to excuse yourself by ignorance. Or, let's say an employee watched a movie late and overslept because of it. An accident that doesn't happen to? And the next day a similar situation is repeated - also by accident. And the work is reduced by three hours a week. Not bad.

How to get rid of delays?

We are accustomed to the fact that people are late, and in most cases we are ready to put up with it. But sometimes delays can lead to serious consequences - up to dismissal or divorce, precedents exist.

If you have personally decided to stick to the Principle of Kings, then first think about what secondary benefits do you get from being late? Can I get them in other ways? After that, all that remains is to try and compare the results.

If another person is late and you are tired of it, choose the most suitable reason from the four main ones, and then just ask him about it. If the words evoke an emotional response from the interlocutor - great, you have hit the spot! But this approach will only help if the cause was unconscious. Otherwise, a person will not see the point in changing beneficial behavior - he will need punishment or some kind of inconvenience to stimulate him. Try to come up with it and apply it. For example, don't wait more than 10 minutes.

As the saying goes, sometimes it's better to be luxuriously late than absurd to be in time. Therefore, when deciding whether to come on time or not, consider what impression you will make on others as a result and what consequences this will lead to.