Video: Praise And Hate - Research
What do people who boast think of themselves? And how do they look from the outside?
According to Irene Scopelliti, a psychologist from the UK, obsessive self-promotion is more likely to cause negative emotions in others than joy for the braggart. While the latter is sure otherwise. In situations like this, we tend to overestimate the positive emotions of others and underestimate our own negative feelings.
To find out what people really feel when they advertise themselves or watch others brag, Irene Scopelliti and her colleagues conducted an experiment. The subjects answered the questions about how often they brag and notice the bragging of others. Then the scientists asked the respondents to share the emotions that they have in such situations. There were significantly more negative people: envy, jealousy, irritation, a sense of their own inferiority and helplessness. The difference between how bouncers themselves see themselves and how others perceive them was significant.
When building relationships, psychologists recommend being open, not complaining, not bragging, but focusing on mutual interests and having fun.